You have not lived
until you have moved a three piece sectional up stairs into a bedroom.
That is what we did
last week. She wanted to move down stairs and I decided to allow it if we could
get the couch into the master that has been hers in our two bedroom town home rental.
If I have spoiled
her it is with too much freedom. The balance now is to allow new adventures
that have their own requirements and restrictions.
My clutter and mess
annoys her. Hers me too but I get so much less grace for some reason. Living
down stairs the idea is she won't have to see my mess and she can actually keep
it looking presentable.
She is doing well in
school. That is a relief. She is actually doing very well which is what I knew
was possible. She just needed the stability and again maybe more control of the
reigns.
I hate that she
thinks I am the enemy sometimes. I have started telling her, her lack of
service to me and the house drives her unrest.
“How can you feel
good about yourself and your life if you are doing nothing to contribute to anyone
or anything but yourself?” I asked her.
She has said she is
neat and tidy but I keep her from being so. I told her that is bunk. I told her
if she were really so concerned she would do more and demand more not just
complain.
I further explained
to her some of the problems she can see are things she simply needs to deal
with and come along side me on.
It should be an
interesting spring and summer. Maybe we will do some/more entertaining. We’ve
been hiding a little bit. Only her step siblings and a couple of her friends
have come over since we moved in here.
She has probably
spent more time away between them, her friends and the guys she has dated. I
want her to feel comfortable to bring people over.
I needed her to take ownership in keeping things tidy and guest ready. This will force it or show that we need outside resources.
I love it: the bargaining and putting her in the position to walk the walk. Excellent decision!
ReplyDeleteThank you. I was worried for a moment when I said yes that it would all fall apart if we could not get the segments of couch into the up stairs bedroom.
DeleteI don't love this couch anyway and was thinking of junking it. Sooner than later to save the relationship if need be.
Things kinda hit a snag on us really getting the rest of the move done but she found some motivation last night.
Up and downs she went moving boxes. Her new room is looking good.